What it Means to be a Boy Mom


Several weeks ago, Elizabeth asked me to talk about what it means to be a boy mom.  It definitely got my wheels turning...which is why I wanted to share more with you today.


When we first found out we were having a boy, I will admit, there was a tinge of doubt.

Would I be able to connect with a boy the same way I might connect with a girl....you know, a mini me?

Would he love me as much as a little girl would?

Would we play together {ie, could I do trucks and toads over tea and tiaras} and really share that bond?

 It all seemed so daunting as I prepared for his arrival with visions of toys cars, stinky socks, and roughhousing in my future.


However, the second Ethan was born, I knew he was meant to be mine and that I would love him like nothing before.  Those sweet eyes and perfect mouth stole my heart from the get-go.  I soon realized that being a boy mom is special...and that a bond between a mother and a son is just naturally strong from the beginning.


Despite my preconceived notions of having a stinky, messy, crazy little man on my hands {and don't get me wrong, he has plenty of those moments}, I am always blown away by how sweet Ethan's demeanor is.  He loves holding my hand...and giving me kisses...or pats on the back.  He loves to hum to music...and of course dance!  He's such a stylish little dude too...dressing him has been so much fun.

 He's smart and handsome and even when he's a stinker, I still think he's a cutie.  He has me wrapped around his little finger, especially when he says "Mama" or rests his head on my shoulder...or gives me a huge smoochie!  I think I expected a little girl to be sweet, but I never knew how very sweet a little boy could be. 


I love knowing that even if it's for a short time, that I'm the only one who can kiss away his tears and make him feel better.  That I'm that one he calls to in the morning.  That I'm the one who gets the final kiss at the end of the night.  He loves him mama.

And I love knowing that he'll always be my little boy...even when he's grown.  I can't even imagine him being bigger than me...let alone going on his first date or going away to college.  I hope we bring him up to be a gentleman and have strong character...to treat women with respect and carry himself with dignity.  But for now, the thought of cheering him on at a baseball game or helping him catch frogs in the summer time, literally makes me giddy.  I'm trying to savor each minute and remember all of these sweet moments, because I know they go fast.

Since Ethan came into the world, the term "mama's boy" has taken on such a sweet, endearing tone to me.  I no longer worry about the roughhousing and instead focus on the hugs.  I've come to embrace all of the little things that come with the boy territory...who knew playing with trucks could be so fun?  And though I know I won't always be the apple of his eye, I hope Ethan is always a mama's boy...my little boy.  Whether it's now as my baby, or when he's grown and has his own babies, I hope he always remembers that I loved him first.

So all of you boy mamas...what has been the most surprising thing for you with having a boy?

xo natasha

31 comments :

  1. This is so beautiful - and being 34 weeks pregnant with number 2 (our first is a girl), I am starting to wonder if I will be a boy mom soon and how will I do?? x

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  2. Beautiful post, Natasha! Ethan is lucky to have a loving mother :)

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  3. I love this. I am a mommy to a sweet little boy and I had all the same 'fears' you did! I wouldn't trade my 'mama's boy' for anything!! Boys are so loving and so sweet and love their mamas more than anything!!

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  5. Such a lovely post! You captured all of my concerns about raising a boy and you are spot on with the beautiful bond that is there. Ethan is lucky to have such a wonderful mama!

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  6. So sweet! This makes me want to wake my little man up and give him a big hug!!! But he's even sweeter while sleeping. :)

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  7. aww this is so sweet! i really hope i have a boy and a girl someday! xo jillian - cornflake dreams

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  8. So sweet! I had the same reservations too, especially since in our family we barely had any boys and I wondered if I could play trucks and all the other other boy things. But like you said there's a true bond between a mom and her son and I love how sweet my son is and how I'm the only girl (at least for now) that he wants :)

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  9. Funny, I secretly wanted a boy. Having a girl scares the bejeezus out of me. What surprised me the most about my little guy is how tightly I am wound around his little finger. He is truly the greatest thing that has ever happened to me. SO much fun!

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  10. Love this!! So sweet, while I'm a girl Mom, I have 4 nephews, so nothing surprises me anymore. lol

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  11. Stop it. I am crying so hard over here. This little boy is the luckiest guy in the world to have you as his Mama. He was born into the greatest family there is. Love you guys!

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  12. I too am a "Boy Mom" and it is the greatest thing this world has to offer. I have always been terrified of being a girl mom (maybe one day in the far away future) being a boy mom is what I'm meant to do! The bond between mother and son is so different and so undeniable.
    We are their first kiss, their first love, and first friends... they are our little boys :)

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  13. Awww I just love this post! I'm going to be a boy mama in August and I knew baby was going to be a boy from the start! I couldn't be more excited!

    Great Scotts

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  14. Such a sweet post. I hope whenever we try for baby number 2, it's a boy. I love being a girl mom, but I'd love to experience both!

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  15. I love being a boy mom too :) There is noting sweeter than the relationship between a boy and his mom. I try to remember each day to relish in these days of cuddles and kisses and hugs, because too soon it will be gone :( Or maybe they'll hug us forever? No hurt in hoping!

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  16. I really hope that I get to experience the love from a mama's boy one day. As excited as I am to be having a girl. I know I will need to remind myself of this when she is 15 and hates me :)

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  17. Oh, this post is going to make me all teary and sentimental. I love having a boy and being a boy mama. There is just something so amazing about being his first love.

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  18. this is so sweet! and gives me confidence that i too could be a boy mama one day. :)

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  19. Couldn't have said it better myself! There's nothing like having a little boy <3

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  20. This post was perfect. Just perfect. You described the way I feel to a T as well. When I found out Mason was going to be a Mason, I too had some doubt. But I'm a girl! I know nothing about boys! But then I had that sweet little boy and I knew he was mine. He was perfect. He so had me wrapped around his finger. I love dressing him. I love when he runs into my arms and gives me a HUGE hug when I get home from work. Or when he gives me a pat on the back. There are just so many perfect little boy mom moments that I couldn't imagine my life any other way!

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  21. Natasha, this was so so beautifully written. You are such a sweet and loving family. Ethan is a lucky little boy and I know you and your husband feel truly blessed.

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  23. I love being a boy mom too! Knowing that I get to help shape him into the man he will one day become is amazing!

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  24. AW this is so cute. I've always wanted girls, but you just convinced me otherwise :)

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  25. Such a beautiful post. Ethan is a lucky boy!

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  26. This is so sweet, Natasha!! I'm so lucky I got to see your love for Ethan first hand. You just lit right up!! Little boys are the absolute sweetest. xoxo

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